Off-Topic: Why I’m A Feminist

Alright world, I’ve been seeing a lot of anti-feminist movement articles on the internet lately, and I’m here to tell you, and justify why, I’m a feminist. Get ready for a lot of bold text.

1. Feminism never has been, and never will be about hating men. Feminism is about equality for all people, regardless of gender or ethnicity. Are there women that exist that hate men and think women should be superior, using feminism as a disguise? Absolutely. The extreme voices of a few are often much louder than the rational voices of many. The same is true in every avenue of life. The loud minority tends to give the silent majority a really bad name. Feminism is not a bunch combat boot wearing lesbians that hate men, it’s a bunch of people, men, women, white, and black, that care about the progression of societal acceptance and equality for everyone. 

2. Rape culture is a real thing. All I need to prove that is all of the tweets about the Stuebenville rape cases. The thing is, many people don’t understand exactly what rape culture is. Rape culture is, in essence, victim blaming. It’s alleviating the rapist, whether a man or a woman, of their crimes and placing the weight of it on the person who has been violated. Rape culture is the silent regard to what a woman was wearing when she was raped, or how drunk she was. Rape culture is congratulating a man that was raped on the sex that he did not ask for or want. Rape culture places the blame of the rape entirely on the victim. Are there sketchy situations you can go into? Absolutely. However, not a single person on this earth is not guilty of forgetting to use their better judgment. Guess what? Even when we make bad decisions, it does not and can not ever justify someone violating us. Rape culture is the comments section of a news article about a rape, where people repeatedly say, “Oh well look at what she was wearing. She was practically asking for it.” It’s when people say things like, “She’s ruined his future.” Rape culture is forgetting about what the survivor of the rape is dealing with, and focusing on how “unjust” it was for the survivor to report and prosecute their rapist.

3. I get paid less than men, simply because there is a stereotype that my gender is weaker, less intelligent, and not suited for a professional work environment. Even though these have become subtleties now, there are still repercussions of stereotypes for working women. Why don’t I get paid as much as a man? If I’m just as qualified, or more qualified, there is no reason for me to be making less. If I lack the qualifications a male counterpart has, I can understand a wage gap. But 77 cents to every dollar? And that’s just an average. Ethnic minorities will make far less than I would as a white woman. 

4. White privilege is also very, very real. Am I ashamed of my privilege? I’m not going to lie, sometimes I am. I did nothing to deserve the privilege that I receive of making more money than a woman who isn’t white. I did nothing to deserve to be more socioeconomically privileged. I have done nothing to deserve having a lower chance of living below the poverty line. The only thing I managed to do to get these things was happen to be born white. And that’s not something I’m proud of. I have not worked for harder for these things. I have not done a damn thing to make myself more privileged. Society sees the color of my skin and gives me those privileges. It’s repulsive, and I wish that we could all start on a level playing field.

5. Abuse is not just an issue that pertains to women; it also pertains to men. And yet, society largely ignores domestic abuse when a woman hits a man. It’s ignored when a woman violently assaults a man with her words, and her fists. Yet, the second that a woman is on the receiving end, everyone is up in arms. This is an issue that should be treated equally. Women are just as capable of harming men as men are capable of harming women. Feminism is about equality, so why don’t we get angry when women abuse men? Those men are perceived as “weak” and “fragile”, and thus treated as less than a person when it gets out that a woman, who is “supposed” to be “weak” and “fragile”, has harmed them. That’s horrible.

For now, those 5 bullets should do. In all, feminism is not what the mainstream media makes it out to be. Feminism is about equality and social justice. Feminism is about filling the gaps between men and women. Feminism is about filling the ethnic equality gaps. It’s about fighting for a better world, where people are allowed to express their thoughts and feelings. It’s about a world where people are not blamed for the violation of their bodies. It’s about allowing people to do want they want, so long as they aren’t harming anyone else in the process. It’s about allowing people to love who they love, because what harm has love ever done? Feminism is about equality. Not crushing men with my big fat combat boots while making out with every girl I see. 

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What If We Admitted to Children That Sex Is About Pleasure?

What If We Admitted to Children That Sex Is About Pleasure? – Pacific Standard: The Science of Society.

 

This is the best damn article about communicating to children about sex and what it should look like. The curiosity is there, ya’ll. This mom is brave enough to tell her son like it really is, and not make it a huge deal.

Can I Get You Anything? A Snack? A Condom?

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Mrs. George had the right idea when she barged in on Regina and offered a condom. She just wanted her precious daughter/maybe Satan to protect herself! So, in honor of Regina George’s mother, today we’ll be talking about condoms. It’ll be fun, I promise.

Fun fact about condoms! They are the ONLY method of birth control available on the market today that protects against STIs. They also have a fabulous benefit of preventing pregnancy. In typical use, they have a failure rate of about 18%. With perfect use, they have a failure rate of 2%. If you know how to use them correctly, your chances of getting pregnant or contracting an STI are pretty low. You can check out this handy video from Planned Parenthood on how to appropriately put one on.

 

It’s a pretty simply process that has a lot of benefits! There are also several types of condoms. Condoms with spermicide are lubricated with a chemical that kills sperm when it comes in contact with it. These are great to use for vaginal intercourse, but not so great for oral or anal sex. There are also condoms that come without spermicide. Latex condoms are the most commonly used types of condoms, and are readily available at most drug stores or grocery stores. It’s important to remember that if you’re using a latex condom, you cannot use oil-based lubricants. These might wear down the latex and cause them to break more easily. If you’re allergic to latex, you may want to switch to a female condom in preventing the contraction of an STI. Lambskin and polyurethane condoms work just as well at preventing pregnancy, but aren’t so great at preventing the spread of STIs. Female condoms are less effective at preventing pregnancy, with a 21% failure rate in typical use and a 5% failure rate in perfect use. They work by collecting the sperm and pre-ejaculate in a pouch that a woman inserts into her vagina. There’s more information here. Planned Parenthood’s website is seriously awesome, and their information is very reliable.

Monogamous or not, please please please remember to use a condom! It is the only way to prevent yourself from contracting STI’s, which can cause several health problems down the road if they’re not quickly diagnosed. On that note, get tested while you’re at it! STI’s don’t always have symptoms that accompany them. The only way to know if you have one or not is to get tested. Do it every six months, so you can catch anything that may not show up the first time.

Sorry it’s been a while since my last post! Finals have wreaked havoc upon my life, and I’m now in summer school as well. I’ll post as often as I can, my sex positive babies.