Check Yourself: Planned Parenthood 101

Over the last year or two there have been several attacks on planned parenthood, both violent and smear campaigns. The words ‘Planned Parenthood’ are pretty hot-button, and people don’t usually like to bring it up in casual conversation. But it’s important to know the facts about Planned Parenthood, and here they are:

In a budget allocation that Planned Parenthood released from the 2013-2014 fiscal year, it should be noted that 42% of the services that were given at clinics were in regards to STD/STI testing and treatment. The next largest allocation of services falls under providing contraception, at 34%. 11% of services were described as ‘other’ women’s health services, which can be classified as a mammogram or pap smear. 9% of services were devoted to cancer screenings and prevention. 1% of services fell under a completely separate ‘other’ category. Have you done the math? That leaves 3% of services provided as abortion services. Right, wrong, or indifferent, Planned Parenthood is not solely an abortion clinic, and appears to be doing everything in their power to educate young people and prevent them from needing an abortion in the first place. Pro-Life vs. Pro-Choice is not something that I’ll be getting into this evening, but it needs to be known that these are the real allocation of services. A whopping 3% of services nation wide were dedicated to abortion. Hundreds of thousands of women received HIV tests and other STD tests. Over 1 million women received emergency contraception, which resulted in over half a million unintended pregnancies being averted. And still, only 3% of services are abortion related.

You don’t have to agree with abortion. But facts are still facts. Planned Parenthood does a whole lot more good than it does harm, and that is evident in the way that they allocate their services. At Planned Parenthood, men can receive a¬†vasectomy. They don’t discriminate, and are rallied around the cause of making parenthood enjoyable for those who choose to parent, and making sure that it comes at the right time for every individual who comes in their doors.

 

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To be or not to be, that is the question.

After a seriously long summer filled with work, very little play, and very little posting to this blog (oops), I’ve finally come up with the inspiration to write again. I’ve been watching this nightmare of a show called “Virgin Territory”, and it’s given me a bit of inspiration. So we’re going to talk about the big V.

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First and foremost, your virginity is simply that. Your virginity. Your virginity does not define the content of your character. Simply because you have it does not mean that you are “pure” or “clean”, it simply means that you have not had sex. I understand the connotations of purity behind virginity, but it deeply disturbs me that both men and women alike are praised for being sexually “pure”, but are not pure of heart, mind, or spirit. Being a virgin does not guarantee that you’re a good person. I’ve known plenty of virgins who are terrible people, and plenty who aren’t. Please, do not wrap up your identity in the state of your virginity. It should not define who you are.

Second, your virginity is something that you hold the power over. You can choose what you do with it, but know that there are always some, no matter how big or small, emotional ramifications that come along with sex, regardless of your gender. Sex is intimate, sex is fun, and sex is special in many situations. If you wish to wait until you’re married, that’s great! If you just want to wait for the right person, that’s great! If you just want to “get rid of it”, you have the option to do that, but be aware that it may or may not be something you regret later on, and always, always, always protect yourself! Your virginity shouldn’t be something that hinders you. It shouldn’t be something that you feel an intense need to be rid of. Different people have sex at different times in their lives. And I guarantee you that if you are determined to have sex, you’ll have it. Again, the status of your virginity should not define you.

Third, you never have to do anything that you don’t want to do. (Except chores, and things like that. But you knew this.) If you get anything from this post, please know that your body is yours, and you have the right to do with it what you wish. Don’t ever let anyone pressure you into having sex if you’re not ready for it, and don’t ever let anyone tell you that your worth and your virginity are interconnected. They aren’t. Because you are a living, breathing human being, you are valuable. Because you are who you are, you are valuable. What you do with your body is your business, and yours alone. If you want to have sex, go for it! Just remember to protect yourself from pregnancy and STD’s. If you don’t want to have sex, please, don’t! No matter how you identify, no one should ever pressure you into having sex. Your buddies do not know better than you. Your girlfriends do not know better than you. Wait until you feel you’re ready.

If you can’t buy condoms, you’re probably not ready to have sex. But, as I’ve stated before, no one else can tell you when you are or aren’t ready. Prepare yourself, be aware of your states age of consent laws, and have contraceptives on hand. Don’t do anything you don’t want to do, and don’t be afraid to leave a situation you are uncomfortable with.

I’ll say it again, purely because I know so many people who have felt useless after losing their virginity, your worth and the status of your virginity are not intertwined. You are valuable and worthy of love, regardless of the choices you make regarding your body. At the end of the day, no one loves you any less simply because of what you choose to do with your body. Virgin or not, celebrate your sexuality, and do with it what you will, because it is one of the greatest gifts that life has to offer.

What If We Admitted to Children That Sex Is About Pleasure?

What If We Admitted to Children That Sex Is About Pleasure? – Pacific Standard: The Science of Society.

 

This is the best damn article about communicating to children about sex and what it should look like. The curiosity is there, ya’ll. This mom is brave enough to tell her son like it really is, and not make it a huge deal.

Can I Get You Anything? A Snack? A Condom?

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Mrs. George had the right idea when she barged in on Regina and offered a condom. She just wanted her precious daughter/maybe Satan to protect herself! So, in honor of Regina George’s mother, today we’ll be talking about condoms. It’ll be fun, I promise.

Fun fact about condoms! They are the ONLY method of birth control available on the market today that protects against STIs. They also have a fabulous benefit of preventing pregnancy. In typical use, they have a failure rate of about 18%. With perfect use, they have a failure rate of 2%. If you know how to use them correctly, your chances of getting pregnant or contracting an STI are pretty low. You can check out this handy video from Planned Parenthood on how to appropriately put one on.

 

It’s a pretty simply process that has a lot of benefits! There are also several types of condoms. Condoms with spermicide are lubricated with a chemical that kills sperm when it comes in contact with it. These are great to use for vaginal intercourse, but not so great for oral or anal sex. There are also condoms that come without spermicide. Latex condoms are the most commonly used types of condoms, and are readily available at most drug stores or grocery stores. It’s important to remember that if you’re using a latex condom, you cannot¬†use oil-based lubricants. These might wear down the latex and cause them to break more easily. If you’re allergic to latex, you may want to switch to a female condom in preventing the contraction of an STI. Lambskin and polyurethane condoms work just as well at preventing pregnancy, but aren’t so great at preventing the spread of STIs. Female condoms are less effective at preventing pregnancy, with a 21% failure rate in typical use and a 5% failure rate in perfect use. They work by collecting the sperm and pre-ejaculate in a pouch that a woman inserts into her vagina. There’s more information here. Planned Parenthood’s website is seriously awesome, and their information is very reliable.

Monogamous or not, please please please remember to use a condom! It is the only way to prevent yourself from contracting STI’s, which can cause several health problems down the road if they’re not quickly diagnosed. On that note, get tested while you’re at it! STI’s don’t always have symptoms that accompany them. The only way to know if you have one or not is to get tested. Do it every six months, so you can catch anything that may not show up the first time.

Sorry it’s been a while since my last post! Finals have wreaked havoc upon my life, and I’m now in summer school as well. I’ll post as often as I can, my sex positive babies.